Many people ask me what Thelkhum is about and so this first article seeks to answer that very question.
The subject of human existence and personality formation fascinates me. The way we are all slightly different and how we all develop to value different aspects of life.
WE OWN NOTHING
What makes me especially curious is the subject of materialism and how many of us, me included, have such a passion for owning certain possessions, when under basic scrutiny the truth is that ‘what we think we physically own, we actually don’t’ .
We will only ever be able to possess and loan the items for the duration of our life. Nothing is permanent. Nothing is forever.
WE SHOULD SEEK TO JUDGE LESS
Another aspect of human personality that fascinates me are the characteristics of judgement and ego. For example, I don’t mind admitting that I’m a little anxious about the small percentage of people who will listen to this and pour scorn on me and ridicule me for creating Thelkhum
“Who does he think he is to suggest such things to us”
“Why does he think that would interest us?”
“Oh there he goes again”
When you get to a certain age, you know human nature and you become accustomed to this type of response. But, at the same time, you know that many people like and respect what you are trying to do.
As a Marketer, over the years, I’ve used techniques to track what people show the most interest in. As an example, just because people don’t want to declare their interest or favour with a like, love or a frown on a certain type of Facebook post, it does not mean to say that post has not really interested people. I’ve had Facebook posts with only one or two likes but several hundred people have actually clicked on the link. They have been very interested but have not wanted to publicly declare it.
So, what is Thelkhum and what is its objective? What am I trying to achieve?
Thelkhum revolves around happiness and life perspective. It started and has its embryonic routes because 11 years ago, I wasn’t in a particularly happy place. Some people may say I was depressed. I know that I had constant feelings of pessimism, I was tired a lot and my face suddenly burst out in an unpleasant type of rash.
I didn’t really and truly understand why this was happening to me but I knew my mindset was not right and so my nature is to investigate. I’ve always been a positive, logical solution seeker and that was my mission again.
I knew there was nothing medically wrong with me but I needed to find a happier place in my head and make sense of the unfounded pessimism. set about tackling the challenge of self-analysis and realised what was wrong. I learned that all our thoughts and habits are learned. When we are born, as babies we have only two fears. These are loud noises and falling. Literally everything else we learn from the influences of others and develop thinking habits.
I STILL HAVE MY OFF DAYS
I fixed the temporary pessimism issue and worked my way into a much happier and positive place. Nowadays, I am a calm, optimistic and happy soul for a good 85% of the time. Don’t get me wrong, I have my off days but I have developed the mental tools and methods to get me through these days with a smile and the understanding of how our brain works.
A few years ago, I decided that I’d share my journey through this and the deeper story of how I tackled it.
I know there are a lot of people who are in the same place as I was 11 years ago and some of the activities and actions I took can help others.
When I decided I would write a book, I concluded that there cannot be a definite formula for happiness. This is because so many different aspects of life influence our unique versions of happiness. However, I’m certain that there are ingredients that maximise our prospects for a great life and so I decided that my book will be entitled “The Ingredients For A Great Life”
I also made the decision that I wanted my book and my work to be different to most other books about happiness and positive mindset. I wanted people to have access to a memorable formula to help them work towards happiness. I concluded that most other books on the subject don’t have such a formula. There are many excellent books on subject happy but few have this essential, memorable formula.
And so, as the writing of my book started to progress, I examined the true ingredients for a great life and the Thelkhum acronym emerged.
THE THELKHUM BRACELET
I wrote and considered a lot of the content for my book on the sunshine Island of Tenerife. At the time, I wore a very colourful bracelet that had caught my eye on ebay.
Every time I looked at the bracelet, it anchored me to the ingredients for a great life – to my Thelkhum formula and I saw the value in such a thought anchor.
And so I contacted the man who I bought the bracelet from. I asked him to add one more colour and make the bracelet thinner. He duly obliged and the Thelkhum bracelet was born.
I have recently added a semi-precious stone version to the range. It has the same objective, it’s an anchor to what I’d like you to think of as a positive life formula. It’s worn be people who agree with the Thelkhum life philosophy.
Of course, there is a much bigger story behind Thelkhum than the quick explanation I gave earlier. My book will reveal this deeper story and, provided there are no unexpected delays, I’m on track to self-publish the book in November this year.
In the meantime, I have gently shared the Thelkhum story with those people who have been curious and who have asked me about it. Those who like it, I’ve happily given a bracelet to. Money has never been my god and Thelkhum is not about an obsession with acquiring money. The people who have known me the longest would quickly tell you that I’m a generous sort of guy.
Even without a formal launch, Thelkhum has already caught a lot of interest. I’ve not met a person yet who has asked about it and not warmed to the concept and asked for a bracelet.
Of course, I cannot afford to give everyone bracelets and so there will come a time when I have to charge modestly for them but I’ve been giving them to people who genuinely warm to the Thelkhum philosophy.
As we consider brands I have to say that I see so many people who wear expensive brand clothes – Hugo Boss, Ralph Lauren, Versace, Christian Le Bouton and they have a big or prominent logo on display on what they wear. These brands refer more to expense, perceived quality and often the desire for status that some people have. Please don’t misunderstand me, I have some of these brands but I’m genuinely just as happy to wear 100% unbranded cotton shirt from Costco as I am a Ralph Lauren shirt and in my experience, the unbranded Costco shirt is often better quality.
I want Thelkhum bracelets and probably t-shirts, huddies and other garments, carrying the Thelkhum logo, to be worn by people who subscribe to a brand with a deeper meaning, by people who are happy to declare they subscribe to the Thelkhum philosophy and who want to focus on and share the ingredients for a great life.
As part of the Thelkhum initiative, I will also be producing short videos, articles, PODCASTS like this one and some level of training and eventually some level of personal support for those people who are interested.
If you find yourself warming to the Thelkhum philosophy, I’d be honoured if you would follow my work and watch out for future free articles and PODCASTS, where I will interview and share stories from people who also want to share the positive lifestyle mentality and associated techniques.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. I wish you a great day.